Not even looking after herself. From what Ive been told from her father, this is how she spends evety day at home with her mom. Wrapped up in her little world. What I cant believe is that her Mom allows this. Not only allows it but buys her every gaming system or game she wants.
Just so she is not bothering her. Ive raised 3 daughters of my own and it just kills me to see this poor girl being shut out of living. My boyfriend, her father sees her once every 5 to 6 weeks and a week or two over Christmas and summers. Hes afraid to do anything about it for fear she wont want to see him anymore. Ive seen her over the last 6 years and she is becoming worse. She has no idea how to converse with people.
She rarely speaks and when she does its usually nonsense. She has very basic manners and has no clue how to interact with people or even be in the presence of people. She only eats cereal, chicken fingers, hamburgers or ichiban noodle soup and its made for her. I feel so horrible for her. Shes not getting a chance to be a child and learn basic skills.
Apparently her school grades are ok but he doesnt know for sure. She has no friends what so ever and is often bullied. The school she attends keeps her with another boy who is autistic. She is not on the spectrum but Im assuming they are paired together because of similiar social skills. I cant help but to think this is aduse. What should I do? Or should I do anything and just mind my own business? The mother and father dont communicate very well.
But this poor young girl needs help. Please be sure to check back and let us know how. This website is great. I used it before I discovered that video gaming and internet was what was holding my young adult son back in life. As he is in denial that gaming is a problem, he does not do anything about it it and thinks he has mental problems.
Well they have gotten worse the more he games and the older he gets. He was moderated by us as a child, but now he is an adult has to figure out life for himself learning from the consequences of his actions. As parent, all we can do is stop enabling them and make sure they do many real life activities and promote social intereaction while they are still minors.
If they are obsessed by gaming, shy and find no joy in doing other things, I would recommend you ban gaming in your home. Online friends do not count as social interaction. They are probably just other addicts. I too once had a bout with video game obsession when I was in my teen years. Things quickly got out of hand when extra weight started creeping up on me. Before I knew it I had become Obese. Now being a Certified Fitness Trainer I realized that my constant game playing was maintained by natural habit formations.
As humans when we do things a certain amount of times out body's central nervous system adapts to whatever actions that we are doing to continue to be able to survive and keep the action going. Obviously, it is really hard to break a "bad" habit so I found that the most successful way was to introduce a "good habit".
Before I started exercising I had pretty low self esteem about my body and knew in the back of my mind that I didn't look the way that I wanted. Think about it Finally, I started getting more and more engulfed with the progress that I was making in the real world with my weight and slowly I started dwindling down my game play times.
For all the parents out there Puberty will trump the obsession. What I mean by that is teen guys always want to go for the "cute" girls in school and want to impress their peers some kind of way.
Let's be real they are still finding themselves in this period of life. The testosterone being a male starts to raging and most of the time if the male can change their appearance for the better for the opposite sex they will do that. With all this being said, these days I sat down and designed a program that holds the gamer's playing times accountable with exercises to do for the total amount of gameplay time to diffuse the unhealthy side effects that little activity can have on the gamer. The key thing is that I am not limiting the gamer but holding them accountable and they stay on track due to the reward system I have set up I give one member out of their gaming circle a free game.
So out of say Parents have loved my program so far and have had success with it. I won't link my website or advertise here but I will give my name Drake Elliott Fitness. Now, before you make the suggestion that my husband and me adopt my nephew smiling let me say that we have thought about and talked about it. My husband and I both have very demanding jobs. I'm in marketing and travel a lot and my husband is the director of operations for a well-known company.
Time is precious in our household. And honestly I'm very concerned about the gaming but I'm more concern about my nephew's low self-esteem.
He constantly compares himself to his freind up the street. He has told me on several occasions "He's better than me because he got better games, a newer system and more money. Why can't I get a new game?
Why can't I go where I want to go? He has parents that love him. Why can't I. F Bottom line up front I'm asking for some guidance on this one please Sincerest thanks for your time and feedback.
The best thing you can give your nephews are your time, conversation and love and keep challenging their self negative put downs. Encourage them to plan projects and achieve them; then plenty of praise. Playing some types of computer games may have some minor advantages for children, according to studies reported by Palo Alto Medical Foundation. Too much time spent playing computer games, however, also has the potential for negative impacts on emotional, physical and social development.
Teens who spend too much time playing computer games -- particularly those games with violent content -- risk having problems with violent and aggressive behavior, according to studies reported by the Palo Alto Medical Foundation. Teenagers learn to identify with game characters, and repeated use of games that promote violence and aggression make it difficult for some adolescents to separate real life from the imaginary "first-person" gaming experience.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents guide children to select high-quality games appropriate for the age of the child, and also advises that parents restrict the child's daily exposure to all media to a maximum of two hours.
While studies reported by the Health Physics Society show that there are no proven radiation-related health risks linked to computers and monitors, the level of screen brightness and the length of time that children spend focusing on the computer monitor sometimes leads to eye strain. Optometrist Gary Heiting warns parents that prolonged gaming play in front of a monitor can also lead to computer vision syndrome, a condition that may cause progressive nearsightedness.
Sitting in front of a computer for prolonged periods may create ergonomic problems from poor body positioning, or from the position of the computer and screen. Digital games include computers, mobiles, tablets, fixed consoles, and mobile consoles.
The research system is done in the form of HCI Human-Centered- Interaction and its combination with human's social psychology, and I, as a senior member of IGDA and college Professor for over 25 years has also been part of the research team. I present to you the summary of this research, both positive and negative:. No one in the range of people surveyed can engage their brain cells for more than three hours a day in response to a computer game's predefined commands, because the brain's social function will be limited to the few commands and reactions practiced in the game.
In most cases, a person who plays more than five hours a day is isolated and non-social, and his or her level of expectation from the community and relatives is higher than other groups and always needs help in all cases. They generally do not have a good relationship with nature and environmental cycles, because, for example, they can repair the damages by hitting a few clicks from the keyboard in games, and generally do not need to apologize when their error is compensated so quickly.
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